Things You Should and Shouldn’t Say During New Year Gatherings | Safe and Sound
The New Year meeting is an opportunity for every family to bond more closely, which is important to help start the new year with an optimistic and positive mindset. The right wishes not only spread love but also create a warm and harmonious atmosphere. Let's prepare with Safe and Sound so that your family can have a memorable New Year's Day!
Ngo Thanh Thien An | Psychologist - Mental health care application Safe s dan Sound
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1. Understand psychology to avoid asking tactless questions
Tet Nguyen Dan is an occasion for people to gather and strengthen family ties. However, in that joyful atmosphere, many people feel stressed when faced with "unpleasant" questions or psychological pressure when wishing a happy new year.
Although seemingly a greeting, questions about personal life can put the listener in an awkward situation, put them under mental pressure and make them lose comfort in communication.
"Inappropriate" questions make listeners lose comfort in communication.
Why do questions aimed at personal aspects cause a feeling of uncertainty? Psychologists will analyze to help you better understand why just questions but affect the listener's psychology so much.
1.1 Questions that invade privacy.
Seemingly harmless questions like “When are you getting married?” or “How much is your salary?” sometimes do not come from genuine concern but from curiosity and prying. This can unintentionally touch the listener’s private feelings, making them feel pressured, stressed and psychologically hurt. Such questions not only destroy the happy atmosphere in communication but also create a feeling of privacy invasion, even making the listener feel that they are being judged for not meeting certain expectations.
Personal questions can easily cause discomfort and hurt others. Instead of asking about private matters, you can choose gentle wishes to show sincere concern such as "I wish you a new year with many opportunities and always reap success!" .
Gentle wishes not only make the conversation more meaningful but also spread joy and comfort to both sides.
1.2 Create psychological pressure
During the Tet holiday, seemingly harmless wishes or questions are sometimes unintentionally tied to social norms, creating unnecessary pressure for the listener. For example, when you say: “Are you planning to get married this year?” or “Is there any new progress in your work?”, you may think these are normal inquiries. But in fact, they easily make the listener feel like they have not met the expectations set by society.
These questions, while well-intentioned, can make the listener feel like they are being compared or judged. Instead, try more positive greetings like:
- Wishing you a new year filled with joy and peace!
- Hope this year you will reap many wonderful things as expected!
These wishes not only bring a sense of comfort but also avoid putting pressure on the listener. It is important to maintain tact and understanding in every word, making Tet truly a happy and warm time for everyone. If necessary, you can consult a psychologist to understand more about appropriate communication methods, helping to spread joy and reduce stress in relationships on the first day of the year.
1.3 Not positive
Questions that revolve around sensitive issues, such as “When are you going to have children?” or “When are you going to buy a house?”, even though they are asked with the intention of conversation or concern, tend to remind the listener of what they have not achieved. Instead of encouraging, these questions highlight what they feel is lacking in their life, causing stress and pressure.
These words make them easily fall into a state of stress and lose confidence. This not only affects the listener's emotions but also reduces the comfort in the conversation. Instead, you can try other wishes such as: "Wishing you always full of joy and happiness with your family" or "Wishing you to achieve the important goals you wish for in the new year!"
These wishes will help shift the focus of your speech from reminding of shortcomings to encouraging and positive, creating psychological relief and effectively reducing stress. Encouraging and motivating words not only bring a pleasant feeling but also increase the connection in communication. Choosing delicate words is the best way to spread joy and make Tet more meaningful.
2. Questions that help spread joy and ease the mind
Questions to help spread joy and ease the mind
Instead of asking sensitive questions, you can show your sincere concern and bring a smile to the listener's face with the following caring questions:
2.1 Health concerns
“How was your health last year? I wish you good health and happiness in the new year!” Asking about your health is a way to show sincere concern, it is simple and creates a feeling of warmth and closeness. This is a way to help the listener reduce stress, avoid causing unnecessary psychological pressure, and spread positive emotions.
2.2 Concerns about life
You can ask about work, school, or anything interesting that the listener has experienced in the past year. This inquiry shows your interest in their life: “Did anything interesting happen in your life last year? I hope the new year will be even more successful for you!”
2.3 Wishes for new plans
Questions about new plans express the wish for the other person to have a successful new year, helping to shift the listener’s emotions to a positive one, while limiting unnecessary pressure, bringing a comfortable and psychologically light atmosphere. “Do you have any plans for the new year? I wish you all the best!”
3. Things to note when giving New Year greetings
To make your funeral wishes truly joyful, here are some important things to keep in mind:
- Keep a warm and sincere attitude: Your language and expression are very important for the listener to feel your sincerity.
- Avoid sensitive issues: Issues related to money, marriage or children can make the listener uneasy.
- Personalize your wishes: Depending on the relationship, you should adjust your wishes accordingly to show your care.
Subtle wishes contribute to bringing a joyful atmosphere on Tet holiday
Controversial topics often evoke disagreements, leading to unnecessary arguments, especially when people have different perspectives and feelings. Bringing up these stories not only takes away the lightness of Tet but also makes listeners feel stressed, going against the relaxed spirit needed to reduce stress. In the context of the beginning of the year, when people want harmony, these arguments will make the atmosphere lose the necessary psychological and harmony.
Choosing the right words not only maintains a harmonious atmosphere but also demonstrates psychological sensitivity in communication. If you have difficulty regulating your emotions, early self-detection and immediate emotional first aid with support from a team of psychologists and psychiatrists will help you have a happy holiday with your family.
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